New love is one of the many pleasant “side” effects of traveling and studying abroad. But for many of us, relationships at a distance can be a difficult test. It will take a lot of effort and optimism to convert your temporary relationships at a distance into a permanent strong love union.
However, nothing is impossible! This article will help you to build relationships no matter how many kilometers set you apart.
Find a convenient time for regular communication
Even if you work on a computer 24/7, sometimes you just need to talk and get feedback. Depending on the distance, a certain period is required to form a suitable schedule for conversations, but as they say, whoever seeks will always find. For example, you can send your loved one funny voice messages when there is no time to chat with him on the phone. And no, it doesn’t matter if you can only call in the morning on Sundays. The main thing is to find time for each other.
Find the best ways to stay connected
When you have picked up time for communication, it is also important to choose suitable means. Luckily, it has never been easier to stay in touch with the whole world than today: Wi-Fi connection is all that is needed for Skype, conversations, and correspondence. Make sure that your preferred communication tool is easily accessible for both of you, and do not forget that using different means of communication will fill your communication with bright colors.
Record an unexpected audio message, send a letter, postcard or parcel. Use your imagination and look for new amazing ways to pay attention to your partner. This does not mean that you should spend all the money on your account. Instead of wasting money on expensive gifts, why not prepare stickers with nice notes for the next meeting?
Do not avoid disputes
If you see each other once a couple of weeks or months and even speak different languages, then the problems and experiences for you fade into the background. No one wants to waste time arguing when you have 48 hours only to be together, but there is no getting away from the fact, that it will harm the development of your relationship. The more you talk about topics that have not yet been compromised before they become a serious obstacle to your love story, the better. Try to solve problems when meeting or on the phone as soon as they appear. Correspondence in such matters is not welcome.
Always try to be frank and honest in expressing your feelings. If you don’t know where your loved one is at the moment or with whom he spent Saturday night, you will begin to worry and cheat yourself. And social networks that allow you to monitor human life will not solve the problem. It is important to trust each other, share thoughts and feelings and together overcome jealousy, doubts, and misunderstandings.
The routine of life makes it to where there are pros and cons about long-distance relationships. Sometimes you may feel as if you are missing something because you rarely intersect with your soulmate, rarely meet after work, or dine together. However, there is a flip side to the coin – you can go about your business. And if you have force majeure at work or the university, you will not have to upset your loved one by canceling plans for dinner or a movie, for example.
Do boring stuff together
When you see each other several times a year, each meeting seems like a real vacation. Well, maybe this is a real vacation, as you take a break from your every day worries. There is nothing wrong with sleeping longer than usual, having breakfast late and going to see the sights of the city, but it’s also important to take care of the routine together – clean, wash, do the laundry, mow the lawn. The mutual desire to make everyday things fun and interesting is a test of relationships, isn’t it?
Make an appointment
To see each other, you need to allocate money and time, so planning a meeting is not always easy. But your feelings will suffer, and your plans for life will be upset if you do not know when you will meet again. Therefore, it is better to set a date for the next date immediately upon returning home. Thus, you can pre-book tickets for great offers, not to mention the anticipation of the expected event!
Spend time together
Hard times require creative approaches to spend time together. Even if you are far from each other, you can still do something together (thanks to the video call function). Nowadays it is easy to find virtual entertainment for two. You can cook, eat or go for a walk, broadcasting a video signal to each other.
Sometimes even calls and correspondence will not save you from longing for the second half. To overcome sadness, you can wear his favorite shirt or drink from his favorite mug. This may be an ordinary thing, but its effect will be very beneficial. The smell of his favorite perfume or washing powder will erase the timelines between you – do not be shy about this practice if you want to be closer to your beloved.
Make each other a part of your daily life
Whenever possible, tell each other about places (you can send a photo) that you often visit and about people with whom you spend time. So your daily conversations will become much more meaningful, and the feeling of unity with your loved one will only strengthen.